The best books that explore sexuality and intimacy in and between men

Why am I passionate about this?

I have a passion for the themes and moods of this list because they explore so many parts of my emotions. They rile me, they work me up into a hot frenzy, they turn me on, they fascinate me, they bruise me, they heal me. I see myself in these books, and I feel that I understand other people. I’ve enjoyed (and still enjoy) reading these books published for free on blogs online, but now I want to write more and read more than I’ve done before. This list is a starting point, and I hope you enjoy them!


I wrote...

Special Delivery

By Arnold Miles,

Book cover of Special Delivery

What is my book about?

Tom works from home. He is a gay man living alone. Matt is a delivery driver. He is a straight man. Matt meets Tom by chance while delivering. What follows is the story of the book, as the two explore their sexuality, their intimate connection, and their friendship. 

Special Delivery is Arnold Miles's debut novel. In places, it is pure smut. In others, it is pure character development and dialogue. If you enjoy M/M romance, I hope you will like it. If you enjoy dialogue between gay men, I hope you will like it. If you don’t mind a bit of smut, I hope you’ll love it. If you like all of these things, I think you might enjoy it.

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of Giovanni's Room

Arnold Miles Why did I love this book?

I love this book because line after line and paragraph after paragraph floor me.

"People who believe that they are strong-willed and the masters of their destiny can only continue to believe this by becoming specialists in self-deception. Their deci­sions are not really decisions at all—a real decision makes one humble, one knows that it is at the mercy of more things than can be named—but elaborate systems of evasion, of illusion, designed to make themselves and the world appear to be what they and the world are not."

It lifts you with perfect prose and then hammers you with something so traumatic and blunt that you need to take a breath. At times, it's too good–like, annoyingly good. Its design, thought process, execution, implementation, weaving, cornering, boundary setting, battling, and emotions are just so well executed. I will never write as well as this, but I will try harder after reading this book.

By James Baldwin,

Why should I read it?

10 authors picked Giovanni's Room as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

When David meets the sensual Giovanni in a bohemian bar, he is swept into a passionate love affair. But his girlfriend's return to Paris destroys everything. Unable to admit to the truth, David pretends the liaison never happened - while Giovanni's life descends into tragedy.

United by the theme of love, the writings in the Great Loves series span over two thousand years and vastly different worlds. Readers will be introduced to love's endlessly fascinating possibilities and extremities: romantic love, platonic love, erotic love, gay love, virginal love, adulterous love, parental love, filial love, nostalgic love, unrequited love, illicit love,…


Book cover of Lie with Me

Arnold Miles Why did I love this book?

I love this book because it is raw. For those who dismiss erotic writing, because they think there are only a finite number of ways to write about sex and sexuality, I recommend this book. The raw and transformative way it writes about the attraction, longing, and pain of sex is joyous and agonising to read.

I love it because I don’t actually like either of the main characters, and liking the characters can often rescue a book from otherwise poor writing. I loved this book despite disliking the main characters. 

By Philippe Besson, Molly Ringwald (translator),

Why should I read it?

3 authors picked Lie with Me as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

“I remember the movement of his hips pressing against the pinball machine. This one sentence had me in its grip until the end. Two young men find each other, always fearing that life itself might be the villain standing in their way. A stunning and heart-gripping tale.” —André Aciman, author of Call Me by Your Name

A New York Times Book Review Editor’s Choice

The critically acclaimed, internationally beloved novel by Philippe Besson—“this year’s Call Me By Your Name” (Vulture) with raves in The New York Times, The New Yorker, The Wall Street Journal,NPR, Vanity Fair, Vogue, O, The Oprah…


Book cover of Swimming in the Dark

Arnold Miles Why did I love this book?

I love this book because you feel like you are a participant, and so you see and feel the effects of the suffocating environment suffocate you, too.

It’s gorgeous in places. Although it is a fiction book, it is genuinely historical and political. It hits all the right notes in all the right ways. 

By Tomasz Jedrowski,

Why should I read it?

3 authors picked Swimming in the Dark as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

LONGLISTED FOR THE POLARI PRIZE 2021
A Guardian Book of the Year

'The highest talent at work' Sebastian Barry

'Beautiful ... A masterpiece' Attitude

Poland, 1980. Shy, anxious Ludwik has been sent along with the rest of his university class to an agricultural camp. Here he meets Janusz - and together they spend a dreamlike summer falling in love.

But with summer over, the two are sent back to Warsaw. Confronted by the scrutiny, intolerance and corruption of life under the Party, Ludwik and Janusz must decide how they will survive; and in their different choices, find themselves torn apart.…


Book cover of A Single Man

Arnold Miles Why did I love this book?

“Someone has to ask you a question before you can answer it. But it’s so seldom you find anyone who’ll ask the right questions. Most people aren’t that much interested.…”

I love this book because it shines a spotlight on loneliness and isolation in a way that most books really struggle to do. It provides you with a sense of what it is to be an outsider. I love this because it balances the melancholy with warmth and hope so so well.

By Christopher Isherwood,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked A Single Man as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Isherwood's short, poignant novel is a tender and wistful love story

Celebrated as a masterpiece from its first publication, A Single Man is the story of George, an English professor in suburban California left heartbroken after the death of his lover, Jim. With devastating clarity and humour, Isherwood shows George's determination to carry on, evoking the unexpected pleasures of life as well as the soul's ability to triumph over loneliness and alienation.

'A virtuoso piece of work...courageous...powerful' Sunday Times

'This mix of humour and stoicism in the face of pent-up grief is essential Isherwood' Guardian


Book cover of For Real

Arnold Miles Why did I love this book?

I love this book because it balances the desire to get up close and personal while watching two men find their way to an emotionally strong relationship so well.

It’s kinky, sexy, and British. The dialogue is great, and the descriptions are great. And in places, it is pure smut. 

By Alexis Hall,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked For Real as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.


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Book cover of Beautiful and Terrible Things

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